Life changing experience…
I sought out Kitty Chambliss and the Loving Without Boundaries program after coming to a crossroads in a relationship and trying to decide whether to let it go or fight for it. I thought I was arriving to save my relationship, but what I was really there to do was learn myself.While the program is often associated with non-traditional relationship structures, what I found was something far more universal. The tools I learned fundamentally changed how I relate to myself during emotionally hard times. I learned how to interrupt unhelpful mental spirals, check the accuracy of my internal narratives, regulate my nervous system, communicate more clearly, and seek support in healthier ways.The coaching is structured, practical, and grounded, and Kitty facilitates the work in a way that makes complex emotional concepts accessible and immediately usable in real life. These skills now show up for me not just in relationships, but in my professional life, decision making, and everyday moments when things feel challenging.What stands out most is that this program doesn’t push a single model for how people “should” love or live. Instead, it builds self-trust, emotional responsibility, and resilience - skills that apply regardless of relationship style, life stage, or circumstances.This work has forever changed me, and as a bonus, my relationship with both myself and my partner are flourishing. If you’re looking for coaching that creates lasting, practical change, not just insight in the moment, this program delivers.
Deirdre Stephens
We were merely coexisting before
We were merely coexisting before, ignoring issues to get through the day. This program equipped us with the skills to communicate effectively, allowing us to resolve conflicts and emotional triggers with ease. Now, our relationship is built on a foundation of trust and mutual support we never thought possible.
Emily Thompson
Skillful coaching and keen insight
I have been working with Kitty for years and just when I think I can't be any more impressed with her, she pulls out yet another fantastic level of insight that dazzels me even more! Kitty's compassionate nature is perfectly balanced by her skillful coaching and keen understanding of the challenges associated with trying to be a decent human being in a complicated life. I routinely refer clients to Kitty and they are always satisfied with the excellent results they get when working with the team at Loving Without Boundaries.
Elisabeth Sheff
Coming to a deep understanding of…
Coming to a deep understanding of identifying as polyamorous was a long journey for me and yet that understanding doesn't prepare you for the challenges that come with implementing that for you and your partner, especially if they view CNM from a different lens. There are plenty of books and material out there but without "Loving Without Boundaries" so powerfully consolidating it into this game-changing program, I wouldn't have been able to see the light at the end of the tunnel anytime soon. Connecting with the amazing material, showing ourselves dedication through the hard work that life and love takes to make living authentically worthwhile, and supporting such a vulnerable community of like-minded individuals... Well, I've never felt braver, more prepared, and kinder with myself to build the life I want to live with those I love. Thank you for that gift, LWB!
Yolainne Mary Derenthal Yolaho
My wife and I completed Kitty’s 9-week…
My wife and I completed Kitty’s 9-week program, and I can genuinely say it was the best investment we’ve made in our ENM/poly journey. We had tried working with several therapists and coaches, but most of them weren’t truly well-versed in polyamory—they either lacked lived experience or a deep understanding of the unique challenges that come with non-monogamy.Kitty’s program, however, is extremely comprehensive. It’s thoughtfully structured, covers everything from communication skills to boundary setting, and helped us open up our marriage in a healthy, sustainable way. The tools and insights we gained from her course have been invaluable.Highly recommend her program if you’re serious about navigating ENM/poly dynamics with intention and care. Let me know if you’d like to connect and chat more about our experience!
Ds Sd
Forever Changed
Kitty and the Loving Without Boundaries crew are absolutely amazing. My husband and I have been together for 10 years, and recently navigating a consensual non-monogamous relationship wouldn't have been possible with them. This experience has been life altering in the best ways for both my husband and me. We have reconnected, found acceptance, and are in a much better place now than we would have been without their guidance. I am eternally grateful to Kitty and the LWB crew for helping us learn more about ourselves and how to live our most authentic lives full of love and acceptance for ourselves as well as each other.
Ciarra Dax
Kathy Labriola LOVES Kitty Chambliss'…
Kathy Labriola LOVES Kitty Chambliss' "Jealousy Survival Guide!" Kitty Chambliss is best known for her “Loving Without Boundaries” podcast. However, she is also making waves with her terrific “Jealousy Survival Guide.” This book asks these key questions:“Who do you want to show up as? Do you want to be a frazzled, crazed, drama-creating, stressed-out person who gets in a jealous rage and potentially damages your relationships? Or do you want to come from a compassionate, loving, understanding place, practicing patience with yourself and others, and create inner peace for yourself and a feeling of safety for others?” Kitty’s book is filled with step by step instructions to help you overcome many of the most common challenges of jealousy in polyamorous relationships. As world-renowned polyamory scholar Dr. Eli Sheff says, “Kitty does the homework for you,” calling the book “A delightfully useful read!” First, Kitty outlines some of those jealousy experiences that will probably sound familiar to poly folks: possessiveness, low self-esteem, need for control, vulnerability, fears of loss. She identifies 3 types of jealous reactions: Disruptive jealousy: trying to sabotage your partner’s relationships or punish your partner for having another relationship,Constructive jealousy: riding out your jealous feelings, asking for support, and “building your jealousy muscles” with repeated practice,, and Compersion: behaving lovingly to your partner and their other partners and gradually developing positive and supportive feelings towards your partner having other relationships. She outlines her four-part program to help you move from disruptive jealousy to constructive jealousy and eventually to some amount of compersion.The first component of her program is Defusion, which means detaching as much as possible from our jealous fears of losing our partner or receiving less of their time and attention, and questioning whether these are actually a reflection of reality. Second in her program is Compassion: using mindfulness techniques to develop and practice loving kindness towards ourselves, our partners, and our metamours. Third is what Kitty calls “Commitment to your personal core values.” She provides a terrific exercise for identifying our core values, including your values about relationships and how you can be your best self in your relationships. Last but DEFINITELY not least, the forth component of her program is Communication, developing excellent communication skills and communicating calmly, clearly, lovingly, and frequently with your partner about your feelings, needs, and desires,. While good communication is important in any relationship, the complexity of CNM relationships and the intense feelings that can be triggered in poly situations requires a much higher level of communication skills, and Kitty provides lots of communication techniques, as well as links to additional training and resources to improve communication in your relationships. Thanks Kitty for showing us how it’s done!” Want to make your poly journey easier and with more joy and less angst? This is a "must have" book for your “polyamory bookshelf,” and is packed with great techniques for how to manage and reduce your jealousy in CNM relationships.
Kathy Labriola
If you have doubts, please read this. This program gave me my life back.
I convinced my wife to sign up for the program. We'd been separated for a few months and had been in couples therapy for years and couldn't make headway. I did the program and it was truly transformative, my wife didn't show up at all save a couple of calls. The bare minimum to be in a marriage or any relationship is, you have to show up. She didn't and that relationship had to end but the communication and conflict resolution tools I learned are priceless, the mindset shifts tremendous and powerful (thanks Bea!), the mindfulness and meditation awakening (Eric!), and to have a dynamic and loving coach who could see right to my core to guide me (Kitty!!) just made the experience of leaving the marriage I was trying to save a huge growth opportunity and I am much happier for it. The program also has a wonderful community of current students and graduates to lean on. I feel as though I am awake, aware, have a positive mindset and goals set to achieve, and have an adventure ahead of me despite not achieving the goal of reconciliation. Letting go of outcomes and becoming the best version of myself, full of kindness, respect, love and empathy puts me in the driver's seat for my life and my happiness. All those years of therapy and what I really needed was coaching to look inward to be able to see forward. I implore anyone struggling in their relationship(s) to sign up, buy in completely, and do the work. You won't regret it. Coach Kitty and her team can get you there.
Cory Wagner
a true "team" experience
When my wife and I started the program, I was terrified that divorce would be inevitable and wanted to know that I had given it all my all, tried everything. The first two presentations printed my feelings onto a page and made me feel so normal. I ran through the material every Monday and repeated learning through each week. We are both better people now and also better together for each other.
Stephen
Loving Without Boundaries
Before this program, I was convinced that I would never be able to stand jealousy and emotionally regulate in a way that was respectful to everyone involved, but by the end of the program I'm confident that I CAN stand the feelings of jealousy when they arise by practicing compassion, embodied nonviolent communication, and other strategies learned throughout the 9 weeks. I may not get it right all the time, but I'm a much better spot than when I started with JSG.
Emily Newman
Coach Kitty is phenomenal
Coach Kitty is phenomenal. She listens SO non-judgmentally and brings decades of experience to her coaching conversations. And she truly has been in the non-monogamous (/polyamorous) relationship space as an educator, speaker, and coach LONG before most people dared speak about it publicly. As it becomes more and more mainstream, there's no one I would trust more than a thought-leader like Kitty.If you are having challenges in a non-monogamous family, relationship, situationship, or if you just need a safe space to ask questions, you literally just stumbled across the best in the world. Working with her is a no-brainer; if you're smart enough to work with her before she gets big, consider yourself extremely lucky.
Jill Turner
No regrets
I was really good at monogamy for the first 27 years of my marriage. When I inadvertently wandered off the ranch, I struggled with if/how to tell my wife. After some research and many sleepless nights, I took the unconventional approach of proposing ethical non-monogamy. That didn’t land too well, and couples therapy didn’t help us make any progress. So, I was super-excited when I discovered Kitty and her LWB program. My wife and I went through the 8-week program along with dozens of other couples and individuals online. It was just what we needed…a forum to learn more about ourselves and the possibilities in front of us, to openly discuss and normalize the situation, and to prepare us both to make whichever decision would be best for each of us. Kitty and her team were so supportive, encouraging and loving throughout the process and ongoing. In the end, my wife and I chose to transition to a loving coparenting marriage with each having the latitude to pursue our best lives. This has been a far better path forward than the traditional storyline of divorce, anger and regret. Let Kitty and the communal LWB experience work its magic on your relationship, too. You won’t regret it!
Phil
“I met Kitty through a referral"
“I met Kitty through a referral in early 2023 when I was in a place of feeling stuck in my marriage. Paralyzed is probably a betting description of how I was feeling. After watching Kitty’s masterclass, I knew she was the perfect person to help me navigate my journey. Kitty and her program were instrumental with getting me clarity on my identity and who I am at my core, as well as helping me recognize my true superhero and how I show up in the world. She also has provided me with amazing tools to help me navigate difficult conversations, manager jealousy and envy, and most important, how to live my most authentic life. I would recommend Kitty as a coach to anyone seeking similar support!”
Raymond Lee
Life Changing
Kitty, Bea, and the entire community have been life changing. The course work, content, and online events with the community are curated in a way that builds and advances your emotional maturity, communication skills, and ability to overcome your ego. Although Kitty specializes for alternative/poly lifestyles, these skills are applicable for all. This initial course was so life changing for me that I have continued my journey with Kitty and her team through her other offerings. I can’t thank them enough for guiding, building, and helping me become the person I am today. I also can’t thank the support you receive from others who participate in the course and really become lifelong friends who show nothing but compassion and support for everyone. If you’re on the fence - do it! This isn’t just a course about your relationship/s, but focuses on you.
Rob
Before I started the Create Healthy
Before I started the Create Healthy, Happy Open Relationship coaching, I was feeling jealous and insecure and I didn't have a clue how it might be possible for me to move beyond those feelings and create positive relationships with more than one person. With support, I am feeling positive, self confident and I have knowledge and a set of tools, which I am putting into practice in all relationships in my life. A short 9 weeks later, I am embodying the super hero traits of the person I want to be in the world and I know that it is possible for me to live an authentic, fulfilling polyamorous life
CC
Thanks to Kitty, we survived!
Thanks, Kitty. I appreciate everything you've done to get us this far! When I first reached out to you, I said “our relationship is in jeopardy” and I was fearful we would not make it another month. I'm forever grateful I have tools to use to continue to improve myself and our relationship. We are in a very different place than we were when I first reached out to you only a few short months ago. Once deciding to enroll in the program, it forces a couple to Stop, Observe, Strategize about their relationship and think deeply about what really is important and what you want life to look like, both individually and as a couple. Although Ben and I are still at different spots on the monogamous vs. polyamorous scale, I believe we respect where the other person is at, and are working together to move those spots closer on the scale, and be in a more unified space while also being true to who we are as individuals. I’m so happy I reached out to you, and am no longer living in daily fear. I was scared of this beautiful relationship ending, because we weren’t smart enough to communicate like adults, and were too stubborn to stop and listen respectfully to the other person! We communicate in a much different way than we did in April, and I’ll be forever grateful for your coaching that got us to this spot!I'm not sure what our relationship looks like in 3 months, 8 months, 3 years, 8 years...and that's ok. Today I'm grateful that we are best friends and life partners who adventure together through life by choice, not obligation, pursuing what is best for ourselves and each other while squeezing every drop out of our short life here on earth. I’m am so incredibly grateful for the program and you. My anxiety levels are lower than they have been in the past few years as we have attempted to navigate this space alone. In the past when Ben was with someone else I would panic and fear the worst but after your coaching and the tools you have provided I feel at ease when he's away and have learned how to control my negative emotions. You not only gave us tools to get our relationship back on track, you gave me peace of mind and relief from the overwhelming emotions I had dealt with for three years. You’re right Kitty, I can stand it. I get to go through life with this wonderful human. I’ve been given the opportunity to color outside the lines with him, and if it doesn’t work, I can still stand it. Forever grateful.Michele
Michele Sides
My recent experience comes from my…
My recent experience comes from my current marriage. Initially, I thought I was doing everything right, but I realized something was missing - something she needed to see in me. I took time to understand her body language, even when she didn't express it verbally. Many relationships fail because we forget to learn and grow together. One crucial aspect of improving a home's quality is giving your partner the respect they deserve. Respect is earned, not demanded. I've learned to love my wife unconditionally, and nothing she does bothers me. As a young couple, we've learned to bear with each other. Constant communication is another vital factor, regardless of the relationship's shape or form. It's the key to success in any relationship.
Collins Odugo
Changed my life!
When I had entered this course, I was in such a space of blame with my partner, everything happening to me was his fault. We were close to completing our relationship. The first week taking this course was so eye-opening. Everything that was talked about validated what I had been experiencing and I quickly realized that I was also contributing to the challenges we were experiencing. Following several weeks of new awareness and resources, I was able to manage all the big emotions I was experiencing. Everything I learned was easy to apply and really worked. Now my partner and I catch our projections much quicker and have excellent communication skills when there are breakdowns. It saved our partnership! I am so glad I made this decision to take this course, it changed my life!!
Sarah Love
I was super skeptical about this…
I was super skeptical about doing this coaching series. I balked at the price, thought it sounded a bit like a sales pitch, and didn’t think it was for us because we’re not Poly. Hubs paid for it and said let’s do it, so I begrudgingly went along with it. I could not have been more wrong. I came to see just how much time and effort has been put into this, and continues to be. I’m wondering if at the tail end of this, if Kitty is making more than minimum wage for all the obvious hours she puts in! This isn’t a coaching course about just living outside the boundaries of heteronormative relationships. This is about how to live YOUR best life. The skills we’ve learned I use in every relationship I have, not just with my husband. I am so grateful for all we have achieved in this course. Each module, each call, each time we practice what we’ve learned, is SO VALUABLE! I’m still only about halfway thought the modules. Even with only being halfway through, the growth we’ve both made during this has allowed us to start having fun and meaningful encounters with like-minded people. The most beautiful part of it is that now, each time we have an encounter with someone in the non-monogamy setting (even when it’s over-the-top awesome), we realize how much we are grateful and just DELIGHTED to be enjoying life with each other. We really are the yin to each other’s yang. Take the chance. Do the work. You won’t regret it.
Jenn G
The best thing we've ever done together
Thirteen years into my monogamous marriage, my husband and I loved each other and were best friends. Best friends who lived in separate bedrooms. We had been through so much and supported each other through everything, but we had allowed life to take away our spark. When circumstances charged through our marriage, threatening to upend everything, we realized we needed help. We were desperate to find a way to stay together and to rekindle what we had lost, while at the same time finding a way to meet both of our needs.We thought about couple’s counseling, but my past experience with counseling was shady and unproductive. So we kept trying, thinking, talking it to death - getting nowhere. We were going in circles.He found Kitty Chambliss and her program online and asked what I thought. I was skeptical, so skeptical. How could some random woman on the internet help us? Surely we could figure it out for ourselves; we are bright and progressive people. But I was willing to try anything. So I booked the consultation call. Kitty showed up, ready to work. Even though it was a free call, she jump started our journey with wisdom and insight. She asked questions that made me think, and she seemed to care about our responses. And it was evident that we were not automatically going to be offered coaching, just because we booked a consultation. She was looking for people who really needed and wanted her help. I am forever grateful that she offered to work with us. I worried about the investment, but we tightened our belts and made it work. She was so ready and willing to work with our budget to make sure we could get the help we needed. It was worth every penny and more.At first, I was still a little worried that we were going to get a cookie cutter program with auto-responses. But when I received the feedback on my first assignment, I was blown away. Every single assignment, question, and comment that I have submitted to Kitty, and to her lovely coaching partner, Bea, has been answered with loving care and insight. Every email from Kitty has been full of encouragement, explanation, and assistance. Bea’s thoughtful questions and challenges have been priceless. It is evident that the Loving Without Boundaries team loves what they do and cares about each individual that comes through the program. The email support alone would have made this program worth the money, but the content of the program is unparalleled. Each module builds on the previous, and each week taught me something empowering and beautiful. Some weeks were difficult, but the results were astounding. On top of all this, the group calls every week provided us with a support system of people who are going through similar journeys, people who understand. I have made closer friends in the past 9 weeks than I did at any other period of time in my life.I won’t sugar coat it. I thought, going into this, that it would be an easy A. After all, I had been in open relationships in the past, so surely I would have an extra edge, right? HAHA! No way. This program required me to look at myself and the person I truly wanted to be. I cried, and I swore, and I procrastinated. But I did it. I did it all. Every single week, I would see the successes. Halfway through the program, I realized that my husband and I were closer than we had EVER been. That’s right. My husband has become the love of my life again, not just my best friend. We had never stopped loving each other, but now we understand the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.I would recommend this program to anyone…to EVERYONE. Whether you are polyamorous, monogamous, single, whatever your relationships look like. I have fallen in love with myself, and I have fallen in love with my husband all over again.I no longer worry about what may come, because I know that we will be ok, no matter what.
Mel Irish
