Understanding Our Patterns Can Change Everything
Working with Alyssa has been truly life-changing for me. Over the course of our sessions, she helped me understand my own avoidant attachment tendencies with clarity and compassion, while also giving me deep insight into my wife’s disorganized attachment patterns.What stood out most was Alyssa’s ability to explain complex relationship dynamics in a way that was both practical and empowering. She didn’t just offer theory — she provided concrete tools, thoughtful guidance, and additional resources that I continue to use in my daily life. Through her support, I’ve gained a new appreciation for how attachment patterns shape conflict, communication, and connection.Her knowledge, insight, and steady guidance created a space where I could take real responsibility for my growth without feeling judged. I am leaving this work more self-aware, more equipped, and more hopeful about the future of my relationship.I would highly recommend Alyssa, as well as Adam Lane Smith's team, to anyone who is serious about understanding their relationship patterns and building healthier, more secure connections. The investment has been deeply worthwhile.
Basil
This was a massively better experience…
This was a massively better experience than going to therapy and talking through the past. The entire experience was to-the-point and action oriented. I worked with Irina and she was awesome at explaining what was going on and how to correct it!
Dan S.
As a psychotherapist I can highly…
As a psychotherapist I can highly recommend this training. Even with all my knowledge of human behavior, I was still hitting a wall in my own marriage. I was confused as to why I couldn't 'crack the code' on our conflicts, which usually ended in stonewalling and depression.Working with Alyssa helped me with the tremendous insight, that we are both of disorganized attachment styles (me quiet and him loud). This and the attachment informed thechniques were the puzzle piece that I needed in order to overcome my fear of communicating my needs, taking care of my emotional regulation and creating more closeness between us. I can appreciate my husband more for who he is and he is reacting more lovingly toward me. Of course, there are still critical and triggering moments, but recovery and repair are much more easier and quicker. I wish attachment informed approaches were part of the psychotherapy training.
Ulrike
So grateful!
I began this journey unregulated, surviving on autopilot and unable to articulate my emotions. I complete it feeling more grounded, regulated, and joyful than ever.Alyssa, thank you from the bottom of my heart for demystifying and destigmatizing what it means to be loud disorganized. Being labeled in this way can feel overwhelming and shameful, yet you presented the information with such compassion and HOPE that it felt far less intimidating. Through your guidance, I learned to communicate my needs more effectively—with myself, within my marriage, and across my relationships. This growth has strengthened my connections and has transformed the way I show up for my children. Although the learning process was challenging, I feel deeply proud of the seeds of change taking root within me and within my growing family. I can envision no greater mission for my life than to be a secure mother raising strong, secure children. Thank you Adam, Alyssa and the entire team for your unwavering dedication! I pray for your continued success and ability to change the world one remade secure attachment at a time!!
Maria
saved my marriage
Alyssa changed my life and saved my marriage. My husband and I were on the brink of giving up, and this was a last ditch hail-Mary attempt at fixing things. I didn’t think it could be possible to change our dynamic so quickly, but what an incredible difference it has made!!! Our marriage is happy, we both communicate securely now, and our differences now make us stronger instead of tearing us apart! Thank God for Adam and his team. If you’re ready to change, this is the place to be.
Helen Dwight
Radical impact in my life
I am truly grateful that I gave this a try. I was skeptical at first, but what I learned about Adam through the Lila Rose podcast prompted me to dig deeper—and I’m so glad I did.Working with Alyssa was an incredible experience. She is knowledgeable, wise, empathetic, and refreshingly straightforward. She offers clear explanations and practical solutions, always making sure you understand the why so real breakthroughs can happen.This has been a life-changing experience. It has given me tools not only to strengthen my marriage, but also to deepen my relationships with my children, all of whom come from the foster care system and carry significant attachment wounds.Truly, thank you. I hope and pray that your mission to bring this knowledge to others continues to break barriers and helps us become a more balanced, self-aware, and authentically grounded generation, living life in accordance to what we were designed to be.
Lucia Seymour
Alyssa - Top notch coach w amazing skill
Alyssa was such a highly skilled an amazing coach! She was very easy to open up to. She understood the issues and their complexities. Helped me navigate the most challenging relationship I’ve ever experienced. I couldn’t have done it without her! I’d hire her again in a heartbeat!
Maria Feuerstein
From Insight to Transformation!!
As a mental health professional, I am impressed with how clearly Adam Lane Smith teaches about attachment repair. His work is based on strong research, explaining difficult ideas in a way that is easy to understand. Adam is also an excellent teacher. His entire team is well prepared to help others find a better life by healing attachment issues. I worked with Jeremy, one of his coaches, who helped me work through deep, long-term attachment patterns, teaching me how to let go of old habits and build healthier ones.I was in the Attachment Repair Program for 3 months. The course is organized in a clear, step-by-step way and each lesson builds on the one before it. This made it easier for me to understand how my specific attachment patterns formed and how to change them. Instead of giving only theory, the program showed me how to use the skills in all my relationships! I stayed actively engaged in this process and my life changed in a way I wasn’t expecting. I now have renewed hope for my future.Lydia BantonIndianapolis, Indiana
Lydia Banton
The on-boarding assessment experience…
The on-boarding assessment experience we had with Jeremy was regulating throughout in what could have been a stressful experience. Jeremy pointed us to coaching with Adam especially since we have been going to therapy for over more than a decade. We each dove deep into our individual inner experience of the attachment assessment, asked many questions successfully navigated by Jeremy, to then finding our way much more curious into this process of healing our attachment. After digesting the information and a few sessions we reached more clarity to say yes. We completed the on-boarding process with more hope than we had knowing that the insecure attachment is not fixed. Thank you Jeremy for such a positive, welcoming experience and onto our way with scheduling time with Adam.
Tish Givilancz Long
My journey
I discovered Adam Lane Smith during one of the toughest times in my life. After a very painful breakup with my avoidant ex, (We were engaged) I felt completely lost. I was caught in my anxious attachment patterns, desperately trying to make sense of everything. I came across one of his videos on YouTube, and it was like a light turned on.I also started listening to his "I Wish You Knew" podcast, and for the first time, I started finding the closure I knew I'd never get from my ex. His explanations just clicked for me. He's incredibly professional, and as someone in the medical field myself, I really appreciate how clearly he breaks things down. He gets straight to the point and explains the 'why' behind everything, which is exactly what I needed to recognise my own patterns and finally start to heal.I was so impressed that I enrolled in his "How to Build a Secure Marriage" course when I was ready for a new relationship. This course gave me the practical tools I was missing. Other resources felt vague, but Adam's course has a clear, day-by-day structure. The 15-20 minute daily lessons were easy to follow and the role-playing examples were a game-changer—they actually showed us how to have a productive conversation instead of just telling us to "communicate better."The biggest thing I've taken away is knowing how to effectively talk about issues without it turning into an argument.I'm just so glad I found Adam's work. His approach is fantastic and he's helping so many people truly understand themselves and their relationships. This course provided the roadmap I wish I'd had years ago. If you're feeling stuck or want to build a truly secure relationship, I can't recommend it enough. Thanks, Adam and his team.
Jenny
Saved my precious time
We asked them to analyze our financial flows and propose solutions. Their research was detailed, and they gave us practical steps to optimize operations. This saved us time and money.
Greg Hayden
Life Changing
I had a truly life-changing coaching session with Adam Lane Smith today. His ability to clearly and simply articulate the key concepts around relating to different attachment styles is profound. I was able to understand the core reasons behind the ultimate ending of my 20-year marriage, as well as several breakups since then. This brought me clarity, closure, and most of all, self-compassion for what I had long seen as a personal failure.I now feel prepared to start dating again, with a deeper awareness of the red flags to avoid and a stronger vision of what is possible and desirable in a securely attached relationship. Thank you, Adam, for your support.
Kristin
Eye opening and life changing!
I have been more than pleased with the coaching that has been provided. I have bi-monthly sessions with Jeremy and he has opened my eyes to parts of myself I hadn't explored. He also provides me with challenging (sometimes uncomfortable) homework that I can see the value in. I have seen growth in areas that I never realized I struggled with previously.The group coaching and repair calls that Adam hosts are amazing. I learn things about my nature and how to deal with struggles like setting boundaries, developing lasting friendships and effectively communicating (to name a few). This team is giving me the skills and tools I need to develop to have attached relationships in the future.The library of recordings is a bonus. You can view different topics and listen to his recordings at anytime. I find myself being drawn to and wanting to listen as I get so much out of them.I couldn't be more pleased with my decision to invest in my future happiness and well being with this team. Finding Adam on YouTube videos started this journey and I can't wait to see my transformation in the end.
Amanda Divine
Hope
My husband and I both come from significant developmental trauma. He is predominantly avoidant and I am predominantly disorganized. Our 17 years together have amounted to disillusionment, despair and devastating loss of hope in spite of our good will and love for one another. Our children have suffered significantly as a result. Yet, we keep trying. Two weeks ago, I first came upon Adam’s material. After watching the chapters “Avoidant Husband” through “The Menu” from his interview with Lila Rose I felt hope that I did not know was possible. I have long been convinced of attachment theory and of the relational neurosciences, but of all the phenomenal professionals that I have encountered, none give a road map for repairing attachment trauma like Adam does. Neither my husband nor I have ever in our lives witnessed an emotionally secure marriage. In our Western emotionally numbed culture, even the best of the marriages that we know fearfully (and often unconsciously) set the right brain as emissary to the left brain when in fact it ought to be master. As a result, we live in a society where there is little to no depth of emotional honesty, expression and processing. But Adam presents life, relationship and marriage in full emotional and neurochemical colour, as God designed it to be. I want for myself and for my husband the picture that Adam paints for marriage from filial to eros to agape love. We have yet to be privileged to access any of Adam's programs or coaching, but I can tell that I am already neurochemically changed for the hope that he has instilled in my husband and I and with that hope I can tell that we are already better. Thank you Adam and team. God bless you. By your work you are healing humanity and bringing man and woman to their full created potential. God willing, we will be able to afford and come to agreement over receiving your help. Be sure of another review when that happens. I can only hope.
Jen Spicer
Astounding results with an incredible professional team
Not sure what started the trail to Adam's programs, but I was in rough place looking for some new answers. I'm in my 50s, and I've had great success professionally and have amazing friendships and family. I was at my breaking point and exhausted from giving too much and not getting what I needed repeatedly. I had a long term failed marriage where I learned the hard way about toxic people and gave myself time and deep work to heal for several years before trying again. After 6 years into a relationship with a great man (who I now know is ethically avoidant) we were facing issues I didn't understand or able to resolve despite our best efforts.I started small watching Adam's YouTube videos. I've been to therapy, and marriage counseling for years. I've done so much personal development over decades. I'd never heard or learned about attachment styles, but I quickly learned how it impacts all your relationships, and most importantly you! I then bought the two bootcamp courses because I realized I was with an avoidant man and wanted to increase my abilities to overcome my own attachment style. Incredible programs! I decided I needed more individual help to unravel my issues and become the best version of myself even if it meant shedding my current relationship (which I truly did not want to leave). Little did I know that investing in myself and crossing paths with Adam's work and Alyssa 1:1 would change my life quickly in the best possible and astounding way. I'm in week 8 of the 1:1 bi-weekly coaching, and everything has shifted for me. Alyssa is sweet, caring, generous, and brilliant at what she does. She saw that I had quiet disorganized attachment and helped me really understand deeply why and how. We immediately tackled the root cause of regulating myself in a way that fit me. She directed me to Adam's videos on quiet disorganized women, and I wept through them in week 1. No one has ever seen me and described me internally, but Adam and Alyssa nailed it. It's been life changing, and my relationship has transformed in front of my eyes in just a few weeks. I am SO much calmer and happy across my life. Learning about attachment in a healthy way for yourself is truly the missing piece in healing forward and becoming the best version of you which is mirrored in all your relationships. Yes it's an investment. Worth every bit and more. I spent way more in therapy over the years and not had results like this. This is the real deal. Life is too short to keep repeating mistakes, and now you have an incredible expert professional team that gets it, is protective, caring, understands you and will guide you in a way that works for you. One comment on the group coaching is that the first few weeks it was overwhelming with the structure in place, but Adam and team proactively made swift adjustments. I now love the Adam foundation talks and Alyssa’s weekly women's groups. I keep learning and growing. Huge light bulbs continue to go off! The bi-weekly 1:1s are something I look forward to and am so grateful to Alyssa for the incredible direction my life has already changed. I wish I had known this 25 years ago, but it’s never too late, and I am eternally grateful to Alyssa, Adam and Lukas (who said Alyssa would be perfect for me and she is!). Thank you for your gifts to heal humanity through earned secure relationships. If you are on the fence and need a nudge, jump over, invest in yourself, and watch your life change.
Abby
Life altering
I cannot speak highly enough of Adam, his team and the life altering knowledge they share and the level of compassion and care that they share it with. I haven’t been part of the program long, but it’s already changed me significantly in how I approach all relationships in my life and I am committed to staying as long as I can to become securely attached and settled in a beautiful marriage. Adam and Alyssa (haven’t worked with Jeremy yet) are prime examples of people doing what they are meant to be doing in life, living their purpose. Forever grateful I found Adam on YouTube and decided to invest in myself and my future this way. My only regret is not having found him sooner. But I suppose it’s like they say.. when the student is ready, the teacher appears.Thank you Adam, Alyssa, Jeremy & Lucas for eveything ❤️
Malkah
I ordered the Attachment Bootcamp…
I ordered the Attachment Bootcamp course, and it is a waste of money. Everything in the course is basic and can be found everywhere online. Open up, reduce your fear, know your needs, respect yourself, have supportive friends aligned with you. Gee thanks, I didn’t know that!Not worth $500 USD
Jackson Barnes
Loved the work this group is doing
I have found that working , my attachment repair coach, Jeremy, and with adam during the group attachment repair program, as well as his more intensive group , invaluable in my work with those suffering from various addictions and mental health issues. I have developed more personal skills and skills and shared many.
Jane
Highly Beneficial
I worked with Jeremy for about 4 months and he was very helpful. He was honest and direct with me regarding my needs and areas to work on. This was very different than past therapy I had and would highly recommend his coaching.
Troy Sheridan
One of the best experiences of my life
I spoke with Adam 10 times over the course of a year and a half. To say the experience was life changing is a substantial understatement. Adam's perspective and expertise couple together to provide wisdom that anyone on the planet would take immense value from. The patience, guidance and respect shown by Adam is a testament to him as a man. If you have the opportunity to talk to him, it must be taken.
Joey
